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What is Emotional Dysregulation?

To understand what emotional dysregulation is, it’s helpful to first grasp what emotional regulation is. Emotional regulation is the ability to manage and respond to your emotions in a healthy way. It means recognizing how you feel, understanding why you feel that way, and making choices about how to express or cope with those emotions effectively. Emotional dysregulation, on the other hand, occurs when one is unable to effectively respond to or manage their emotions, which results in difficulty controlling emotions, intense emotional reactivity and emotions that last longer than they should. This often leads to reactions that are inconsistent with the situation at hand, making it harder to handle emotions in a balanced way and making logical, thoughtful decision-making very challenging, if not impossible.

Emotional Dysregulation

How Do I Know If I Am Emotionally Dysregulated?


You may be struggling with emotional dysregulation if you notice…


  • Intense Emotions or Emotional Sensitivity: Your feelings are much stronger than the situation seems to warrant.


  • Difficulty Calming Down: It takes a long time to calm down or self-soothe after getting upset.


  • Impulsive Reactions: You act or speak without thinking when emotional, often regretting it later as these reactions are inconsistent with your values or desires.


  • Frequent Mood Swings: Your mood shifts rapidly and unpredictably.


  • Relationship Strain: Your emotional reactions often cause conflict or distance in relationships.


  • Physical Symptoms: You experience headaches, stomachaches, or rapid heartbeat when stressed or upset.


  • Feeling Out of Control: You feel like your emotions are in charge, not you.


  • Negative Self-Talk: You criticize yourself harshly when emotional, leading to shame or guilt.


Emotional dysregulation can arise from a combination of biological, psychological, and environmental factors that can disrupt anyone's ability to manage and respond to emotional experiences in a healthy way. If you’re struggling with emotional dysregulation, know that you’re not alone. Many people experience difficulties with managing intense emotions, and it’s a common challenge. It’s important to understand that these feelings are valid and that seeking professional help is a proactive and courageous step.


How Therapy at Upper East Side Psychology Can Assist You


If emotional dysregulation is affecting your relationships, work, or self-esteem, therapy can be a powerful tool for change. At Upper East Side Psychology, our therapists specialize in utilizing evidence-based approaches like Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) to help you develop skills to handle intense emotions.


Our skilled therapists will work closely with you to teach techniques for understanding and regulating your emotions, reducing impulsivity, and developing healthier coping mechanisms.


In our compassionate and supportive environment, you will gain insight into emotional dysregulation and acquire practical tools for managing your emotions more effectively. By focusing on emotional regulation, you can achieve greater stability and balance in your life. 


Schedule a free consultation today to explore how we can support you in enhancing your emotional well-being and overall quality of life.

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FAQs

FAQs

What is emotional dysregulation?

Emotional dysregulation refers to difficulty managing emotional responses, often resulting in intense reactions that feel disproportionate to a given situation. It can significantly affect relationships, work performance, and overall daily functioning if left unaddressed. Building these skills takes practice, but they often lead to noticeably steadier emotional responses.

What causes emotional dysregulation?

Emotional dysregulation can stem from trauma, chronic stress, certain mental health conditions, or a lack of early skill-building around managing emotions. Causes vary widely between individuals, and treatment addresses the specific contributing factors involved. Support is tailored to the specific triggers and patterns behind emotional reactions.

What therapy helps with emotional dysregulation?

Dialectical Behavior Therapy, or DBT, is one of the most effective treatments for emotional dysregulation, teaching skills for emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness that our therapists at Upper East Side Psychology tailor to each patient. Many patients find that consistent practice leads to greater emotional stability over time.

Is emotional dysregulation the same as having a short temper?

Not exactly. Emotional dysregulation involves broader difficulty managing a wide range of intense emotions, not just anger, and often includes rapid mood shifts or noticeable difficulty calming down after becoming upset in the first place. Building these skills takes practice, but they often lead to noticeably steadier emotional responses.

Can children experience emotional dysregulation too?

Yes, children can experience emotional dysregulation, and our therapists at Upper East Side Psychology use age-appropriate techniques to help younger patients build emotional awareness and practical coping skills early on in their development. Support is tailored to the specific triggers and patterns behind emotional reactions.

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Meet the Therapists

Dr Gabrielle Schroyer-Hoffman, Phd
Dr. Schreyer-Hoffman, Ph.D.

Founder and Licensed Psychologist in NY, VA and PsyPact States

Dr. Kayla Yellen, Psy.D_
Dr. Kayla Yellen, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, 

Director of Training and Supervision

Dr. James Modico, Psy.D.
Dr. James Modico, Psy.D.

Postdoctoral Fellow

Averey Esposito LMSW
Averey Esposito

LMSW

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Kate Bollerman

 MHC-LP

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Danielle Minogue
Danielle Minogue

LMSW

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Maya Statmore

LMSW

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Paige Deertz. LMSW
Paige Deertz

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Caitlin Frankel

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Polina Roustamov

MHC-LP,  NTA

Ella Williams LMSW
Ella Williams

LMSW

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